Shaffy Bello Women should reconsider material demands in partnerships

 

Actress Shaffy Bello has urged young women to prioritize their own development and independence over relying on their partner's wealth or financial standing.

Bello emphasized the need to change conventional assumptions in contemporary relationships in an interview with Ifedayo Agoro.

She pointed out that young males are under pressure to manage their financial obligations and satisfy material wants.

She promoted partnerships based on cooperation, support, and common objectives and urged women to be more considerate of their spouses' financial circumstances.

As I observe some of our ages as well, I believe that if there is anything I can do with the younger ones or my own age, we behave horribly," she remarked. Even at my age, there are women who say inappropriate things. We must be careful what we say. Someone is paying attention. We will therefore be listening since my daughter is. Additionally, my other kids are listening.

We've sold it, and I believe that one of the younger ones' faults is to assume that he must be wealthy. Don't get me wrong. You will take care of the things that need to be taken care of. I'm not saying that at all. But this is how I want people to think about it.

"As soon as you begin to consider your wealth and what you can earn, I want to meet that wealthy man." Then you give up something in the world that says, "I want to be that man that people are talking about until you meet that person." You know that man that every girl wants to meet and have a relationship with, no, That's who I'll be. You for yourself. Yes, for me. 

So he's around when I get there. On your cake, I sit. What are we doing now, then? I'm going on a trip with you. But no, no, no, I want it this way.Yes, as I am capable of doing it. Yes, without a doubt. Therefore, I believe that a man must provide for me financially; a man must be wealthy before I ever meet him. Do you believe that he is preventing ladies and girls from falling in love? Of course. And so, I get all of this. Our men, young men, too. You can do better, come on. You're capable of more. Additionally, I advise you to remain inside your age range. 

"So, I got down with two young women and asked them what they were looking for in a young man. Hey, I have to go out with him. Additionally, I should at least get my hair done before going on dates. What had I done with all that money? And that's all right, all right. I turned it over and said, "All right, let's assume a young man who is average in age—31, 29, 31." I also mentioned that if he's earning 450,000 a month, which is average, some people are earning millions, and some are making average, the unmarried person who's still working is earning 450, so you're probably making 250 or 350. However, this young man,You anticipate going on dates with him twice a week. When he first sees you, he asks how you're doing and what's going on. Would you like to join him for supper after he obtains your number? He also wishes to win your admiration. That indicates he's going to take you out to dinner, and the average dinner and impression these days is between 75,000 and 100,000. All right, is that high? Is it that high, now? Yes, indeed. Isn't that just being really moderate? Alright, moderate. That's what he does on Thursdays.

That implies that you anticipate him to take you out again by the weekend of the following week. On a Wednesday, perhaps, you went out. By Saturday, you've returned home and are idle. Let's go out again. You think this guy you just met will take you out again. He repeats the process, making 75,000, or 150. Out of 450, that guy has already spent 150. In addition, there are other obligations.

There are a lot more. I have no idea, I have no idea, I have no idea. Are you familiar with 150? No, 450. Out of 450, he has already spent 150. What happened to the survivor? If he owns a car, he must drive to work. If not, he must go to work, get dressed, trim his hair, and appear presentable for you, sweetie. So, that money is dubious, indeed. So the first time, he brings you out to dinner. On the second occasion, he is considering whether we can simply perform a lot of joints or if you come over and say, "Well, come here, let's start us,everything. since you wish to win over your pals. But you're not asking yourself, "What's there?" when you look at this guy. You cook sandwiches, make it fair for him, and then say, "You're not taking me out today," so we can sit down and speak. By the second date, you're talking and asking questions. You go like this and he goes like this if he is not in your direction. However, you think, "Okay, okay, so how are we going to make this work?" if it is directed at you.

"How do we collaborate? How are we going to resolve this? due to the fact that you spent 75,000 last week. How much do you make, roughly? You'll eventually have a sense of his income by the third date, but the guy won't want to tell you because he's still working. That's what I make, and that's what you two should be discussing. I make this. How are we going to resolve this? And that's what we refer to as potential. You can see that kid has potential because he is working hard. And you make your choice based on his words and deeds.